I received a question in my email that I thought would be good to share here on my blog. In Marie’s email she said:
“I was thinking of ordering this program for my two special needs children a boy and a girl. Do I need more than the 2 CD’s that come with the program? Since they are in different rooms and the music plays in CD’s wasn’t sure how that would work with 2 children.”
Below is my response to Marie, hopefully you will find it helpful as well.
The way the game works is that you play it with your whole family at the same time. Children seem to learn best by doing what their parent’s do side by side. In this way they can learn to be skilled in taking care of each area of the home. The game directions say to team up with a family member that does not know how to do their “points” yet with one who does – until they become good at it. After they learn how to do their kids housekeeping for one area of the house well, you can switch them to another area to learn how to do it. The training may take 6 months or more before they become good at what they are doing. It’s kind of like learning to play the piano. You wouldn’t want to switch them to the violin until they have practiced and become good at the piano. Taking your children to a janitorial supply store to better learn how to clean the bathroom is one idea on how to help them build self-esteem in doing a task which they will need to know how to do throughout their lives.
The way that you play the game as a family is to turn up the music in a central location so that it can be heard throughout the home. The music filling the air motivates ALL of the family members to run and get their points. If the children see that “we all” are doing our part to care for the home then they grow up SEEING that all family members, young and old take care of their surroundings. This trains them how to be a responsible adult LIKE THEIR PARENT’S are.
I just received an email from another lady who has used the Children’s Miracle Music game for over two years now with her own “special needs” child. She said that she was at the end of her rope before she ordered the game and playing it together with her family has truly been a miraculous transformation in their home.
If your home is too large to hear the game throughout it, you can always get a couple of cordless speakers and place them in key areas. I haven’t found that there are any homes, so far, which need these cordless speakers though. Turning the volume up for all to hear has been working in thousands of homes.
Please share your questions and stories in the comments for this post.
Your kids’ chores do not need to take time away from your kids studying and getting immersed in various homeschooling activities. The Children’s Miracle Music game is PERFECT for home-schooling! The Children’s Miracle Music game is set up to guide the kids into following schedules that do not intrude into the homeschooling activities that require more of the children’s attention.
I also home-school, and using the Children’s Miracle Music game actually made a lot of things EASIER for me. It is focused on helping children to become self-reliant, and also enable them to take care of themselves and their surroundings. Kids’ chores do not have to be a hassle anymore! The Children’s Miracle Music game focuses on getting your kids used to their chores and working on them without having to be told to do so again and again. The game itself teaches your children an order for their chores, as the chores themselves are set at different times, which lets them get into the “flow” of things. Once they are made aware of their schedules through music, your kids will not need prodding from you to go ahead and do their share of responsibilities so you can STOP being the moderator and start being a TRAINER!
Kids get into doing their chores because the Children’s Miracle Music actually HELPS them through each task, making sure that they learn all about their chores and guides them through each one. It teaches them to become a PRO with each new chore that they practice, and also helps them to learn new chores. I highly recommend using Children’s Miracle Music game as a complement to your homeschooling activities, because it makes learning FAST and FUN!
I wanted to share my thoughts in response to Rebecca from Michigan, who asked me this question:
“I have to 10 year old son and 6 year old son. I think my 6 year old will love it, but will it help motivate my 10 year old?”
The other morning I slept in because I was up at night with my little ones. So I didn’t start the Childrens Miracle Music game when I usually do. My little six year old, Faith came into my room and whispered in my ear that she and her brother Tommy (age had made their beds and were now doing their “Act of Kindness“. Tommy was downstairs making breakfast for the family and Faith was cleaning the bathroom. They were finished in ten minutes—the amount of time that they would need if the music had been on. Teenagers may roll their eyes at doing your system but I just tell my children (ages 1,3,6,8,13,15 and 19) that it is my job to find a system that supports our family to have me as their TRAINER – and not their slave. This is the system I have chosen.
Oftentimes, I ask them if they prefer me to yell, spank or ground them instead of playing the fun musical game to get their points done. They always choose the game for the system. The Children’s Miracle Music game does not make you the motivator anymore. You know WHEN to expect WHOM to clean WHAT each day without motivating them.
To TRAIN your children, put your hand on their hand and do it with them until they can do it for themselves. Also, one game rule is “Thumbs up rule.” You only use words about what you see when someone does something that is GOOD. This goes for husbands as well! Don’t say a word when you are tempted to say something that someone is NOT doing.
I would highly encourage getting the Children’s Miracle Music game ESPECIALLY for your ten year old because you only have eight years left to TRAIN him how to have these essential life skills. Thanks Rebecca for asking. I always like questions and comments right here on the blog.
Whatever gets attention will get repeated.
You can also TRAIN by letting them have natural consequences. One day the “Dishes” “Act of Kindness” didn’t get done. I didn’t say one word about it. When dinner came around I just washed the table and served dinner without the plates. That point got done the next day. I do think that your children should learn these skills and habits so that they can become responsible, self-governed, skilled adults.
Erin, a mother to her three and a half year old asked a great question:
“Once you turn on the music, do you need to participate and do your OWN chores/responsibilities at the same time to set an example?”
The Children’s Miracle Music game is for the whole family – including Mom and Dad. In the game, each family member chooses where they would like to go on a private date with either their mom or dad. Write the dates on the “Goal” section of the “Points Chart”. Let them know that they need 100 points to reach their goal and go on their date. I always put “Dad” and then “Mom” at the top of the chart for everyone to understand that we all need to do our part in home chores. But the ‘real goal’ is to train our children to have the HABIT, SKILL and DESIRE to quickly and happily take care of each home area, as well as themselves. This ‘real goal’ needs to be achieved before they turn 18 and leave their parents’ home, so that they can then achieve this without exterior motivation.
The game is a miraculous tool that instantly TRAINS your children to become responsible and self-governed adults. In playing the game, write down every area (room) of the house and then add “Laundry”, “Dishes” and “Breakfast” to the list. Pair family members into team-mates. One that is older with one that is younger. (Yes parents can be team mates too.) Each team (two family members) chooses two points (tasks) from your list. One for the morning “Act of Kindness” and one for the evening “Act of Kindness”. You leave them on the same “Act of Kindness” until they become a PRO at doing it. It could take years (depending on their age) but it becomes a life-long skill once learned.
Here’s a recent example from our family: The other day my husband needed some extra work clothes washed. I was really busy so I said to my THREE year old daughter,
“Go and show daddy how to do the laundry. OK?”
She is almost completely a PRO at the laundry because we, as team-mates, have been practicing doing this ‘kids chore’ for three years now (since she was born). When she can do the laundry completely, I will switch her to a new area of the house to become skilled at taking care of another ‘kids chore’ - or ‘act of kindness’ as we call them in the game. I strongly suggest getting the whole family involved with Children’s Miracle Music game. It is just as much about freedom and responsibility for children AND parents.
Jennifer asked a great question in the comment section for my post about Sequence and System. Since this comes up for many parents I thought it was worth writing a special post about it…
I’m so glad to hear that Jennifer will be starting her 21-month-old little boy on the Children’s Miracle Music game. I start my children when they are born so that they can learn the SKILLS, HABIT and DESIRE to become self-reliant and responsible right from the start. I have a 21 month old also. Her name is Grace. She and my three year old, Angel, share a room. So, when the morning music starts I put my hand on Angel’s hand and, with Grace watching on from her crib, train her how to do one small thing to learn how to make her bed better. Right now she is learning how to lay her cuddle blanket flat on the floor and then match up the corners as she folds it. She then places it at the bottom of her bed. This is a very simple ‘kids chore’ for her to learn.
When I get over to Grace, she knows, by having watched my example, that she is supposed to be making her bed and she hands me her blanket. I then put my hand on her hand and help her to fold her blanket also. Since they practice this task every day, they are becoming good at making their beds and folding their blankies. They are now part of the kids housekeeping routine. I change Graces diaper during the “Use the Bathroom” music and when the “Act of Kindness” (my term for kids chores) music comes on she knows to run to the dryer and empty the lint screen. She then starts handing the dry clothes from the dryer to Angel to hang up. (Angel has been practicing doing the laundry every day for three years and can almost completely do our families laundry by herself. Yes she is only 3!) Grace knows how to do these things because I have put my hand on her hand and done these things WITH her so many times that she now knows to do some of the laundry and bed making on her own.
Every person, no matter what their age, needs to do these eight morning points and four evening points so that they can have the HABIT, SKILLS and DESIRE to get their necessary things done quickly and happily each day. They then have the rest of their day left over so that they can do what’s important like serve others instead of just themselves. Our family relationships have completely changed with the use of Children’s Miracle Music– it can be part of your lifestyle too, and make a huge difference to you as a parent. Your career shifts from being a motivator and family support person – to Trainer and Cheerleader.
Please make a comment or ask questions in the comment section of the blog posts – I would be happy to expand on any of these points. It is great to hear from Children’s Miracle Music families! Also - please send in your photos and we will post them on the blog.
Kendra has another question that everyone can learn from…
“Have you thought about offering a customizable CD in your shopping cart where people could choose the duty, choose the songs, the amount of songs, and the order?”
I understand where you are coming from – and there is an important reason why the answer is NO!. Because, if we did you wouldn’t see the same miraculous results that you do from the in-depth research behind the ‘press-of-a-button’ results that you now experience with Children’s Miracle Music. I recognize that every mom has their own idea about how they want their mornings and evenings to run. I have to tell you though, after years of testing in many different families’ homes we came to the conclusion that there was only one routine that was the most motivational in getting your kids housekeeping accomplished each day. Let me explain…
Naturally we would love to get up and do the easiest thing first which is to eat breakfast but the problem with this is that YOU will then need to help be the motivator in getting all of the other points done. The idea behind the game is to release you from having to be the motivator so that you can have the profession of being a TRAINER instead.
The music that is used on the game also has great research behind it. It needed to be a specific amount of time so that family members would feel that they need to hurry but still have enough time to accomplish the point (task). The music also needed to be selections that where highly motivational and specific to that point’s ‘beat’ in order to instantly change the atmosphere of the home into active participation.
Another breakthrough came to us when choosing the specific music for the Children’s Miracle Music game. This came when we had to find selections which could be recognizable – so that family members could hear it and, having heard it before, know how much time they have to do their point. It also had to be music which they would not get tired of. We accomplished this by sorting through thousands of tracks of music which do not have words to them. Words are what make you tired of listening to a song.
We did, however, choose a song that does have words for the last selection before you go out the door for the day so that you can keep singing it and be uplifted by it all day long. We found that even if you don’t like the last song you heard in the car before you turn it off, it’s easy to get it stuck in your head for the rest of the day! Since the words to the last song that you hear on the game are, “I am so happy. It is a lovely day…” family members are giving subliminal messages to themselves as they continue to sing it and automatically have a better day because of it.
There is lot’s to explore with Children’s Miracle Music – and I’m just getting going with what I call the Six Pillars of Strength - a full suite of tools and programs that give practical application to the core principles inherent within this game. I warmly encourage you to expand your own skills to train and cheerlead your family so that more miracles keep occurring.
Do leave me questions and comments in the comment section below each post. I would love to hear from you.
Here is a mother with a challenge… I am sure she is not alone.
She is burdened by the housekeeping and, neither her kids nor her husband are helping with the chores. Sound familiar? Her ideas — in this YouTube video is to take away privileges, money, and even possessions as a way to solve this. Clearly it’s not working. Watch the video below and then my suggestions below. Getting kids chores done and having kids housekeeping be fun is possible…
Dear “North Georgia Peach”,
I’m so glad that you took the time to post your question. After more than fifteen years of research on how to get kids chores done I can show you an easier way.
The idea is to make chores fun – and to train your kids (and husband too!) how to do that. The Children’s Miracle Music game instantly and automatically changes what you might call “chores” into what children see as fun tasks to do. To you, the game becomes a miraculous parenting tool which you can use to train your family on how to be skilled at and have the desire to do their chores WITHOUT you having to nag them. I know! It’s a MIRACLE! You said in your video… “that your children are only expected to do about ten minutes of work each day.”
CHALLENGE - if a chore should only take ten minutes, but you have not designated WHICH ten minutes, then you will probably have to wait for a very long time for your children to decide which ten minutes!
SOLUTION - The Children’s Miracle Music game uses music as a timing mechanism to let your kids know EXACTLY which ten minutes!
I don’t believe that it is wrong for you to expect certain things to be done by each family member every day. Your family members shouldn’t be thinking that the chores they do are to help YOU with YOUR work. The Children’s Miracle Music game automatically transfers exact responsibilities of chores to each person. Now you are able to ask THEM if they would like help learning how to care for THEIR areas.
There’s lot’s more ideas here on how to liberate yourself and your family – to have a happy and fun home atmosphere – where all the chores get done effortlessly. I would love to tell you a thousand more ideas about this. I’ll be writing more on this blog of the life changing research that I’ve found to work for my family and thousands of other families.
Please join the conversation here with questions and comments.
There was once a classroom of students who decided to do an experiment. When their teacher walked to the left side of the classroom they all yawned, looked out the window and looked generally bored.
When the teacher walked to the right side of the classroom they all sat up, were attentive, asked questions and tried to learn what the teacher was teaching.
The teacher quickly learned subconsciously that he should always stay on the right side of the room.
The same principle is effective with children and kids housekeeping. Since children crave attention, they will do - even on a subconscious level – whatever gets them attention.
If you aren’t giving them enough positive attention, they will behave negatively, to get negative attention. The natural reaction to this is for a parent to talk or yell at their child who’s not doing what she wants them to do.
If you want your child to be well-behaved or to do a specific task, give extra attention to those good behaviors and zero attention to the negative ones.
If a mother yells, her children will learn to yell, even if the mother is yelling, “We aren’t going to have any yelling in our home.” If a mother spanks her children, her children will learn to hit others. If a mother works on a computer all day, her children will learn that the computer is what they should value and where they should spend their time … you get the picture!
If a mother sets up a chore chart and doesn’t put “Mom” and “Dad” on the chart, her children will learn that when they are adults, they won’t have to take care of their surroundings and may not even take care of them as a child, since their parents don’t seem to think it’s important enough for THEM to do.
When I want my children to do something, I start doing it myself and verbally point out how responsible I am being. My children become aware that I am doing something worthy of attention. They then want some of that same praise for themselves and start following my examples.
I praise their efforts and give them extra attention because of their great behavior. You’d be amazed at the kid’s motivation it creates.
Music is a POWERFUL motivator – for kids and adults alike. If you have ever gone to a movie and felt like crying because a dog died or felt great fear because a shark MIGHT be in the water, then you have experienced the powerful impact that music can have on your emotions.
If you saw the same scenes without the carefully chosen music, you might find that you feel bored watching the show.
Music not only instantly motivates our bodies to be completely filled with the emotion that it is portraying but it also makes us completely aware of the passage of time without having to look at a clock. When you become aware that time is moving on, the feeling of needing to make every second count becomes AUTOMATIC.
The music selections on the Children’s Miracle Music game have been carefully and strategically chosen after years of research. The motivation that kids get is to FEEL LIKE doing their tasks. And part of the game is to be rewarded — with points that count towards their goals.
Sage, who is 8 years old says proudly: “the music makes me do it.” She’s right of course — music makes us do so many things.
I bet you didn’t know that there was music that could help your kids to FEEL LIKE doing the dishes — or cleaning the toilet! There is. My research – as a mom and a keen observer of kids’ motivation has determined the exact LENGTH OF TIME that each task could be accomplished in. Then both of these motivators are combined into the most effective motivational sequence.
The result is that kids chores can now be fun every time. All the kids housekeeping gets done, quickly and easily – with NO nagging.
There’s lot’s more to say about music and kids motivation. Music has become a joyful part of our family life. I am sure it can be for you too. I’d love to hear your questions and comments about how music motivates you and your kids.
Football is a game that millions of people spend millions of dollars watching each year. They will sit though rain, snow and freezing weather to watch the game they love.
The players of the game love it so much that they are willing to suffer broken bones and have life long injuries from playing it. Many men would rather go out in the cold muddy field and play football after work than sit in a comfortable, warm office building.
So what makes this game so desirable that millions would give up their comforts, money, time and energies to play it?
The answer is – it’s a GAME. It has points, strategies, goals, deadlines, rewards and a way to “win”. Self-esteem is built because a job is well done and is being noticed.
What if these components that turn football into a game were taken away? Would anyone WANT to “play” or watch football? The answer would be “no”. The points, the goals and the score-board are what motivate players and spectators to be fully engaged in the game.
Any hard task can become a game worth playing. If you add points, goals, rewards, deadlines and strategies, ALL tasks can be fun and motivating. Self-esteem grows from the recognition of a job well done.
When viewed in these circumstances the focus shifts from the drudgery of the task to the strategy of the game and how to get to the “goal”.
We all need to accomplish the same tasks to take care of our bodies and surroundings — every morning and evening for THE REST OF OUR LIVES. Putting them into a fun game to make them motivational makes perfect sense — and they aren’t nearly as hard as football!kidshousekeeping.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/img-3923.jpg" border="0" alt="Kids Chores" hspace="4" vspace="4" width="220" height="165" align="right" />
You can turn kids housekeeping into a game that is fun to play – with all the same elements that make football so compelling. Make the score-board into a rewards chart (unlike so many chore charts which are burdensome ‘to-do’ lists). And create goals worth playing for. The ideal goal for kids is a private date with either mom or dad – a special one on one time to look forward to.
Welcome To A New World – Where Kids Do The Housework
Hi, I'm Christine Mullins, the proud mother of seven children. Over the years I've experienced all the joys, struggles, mistakes and successes that go with that role.
I've dealt with the challenge that every parent faces: how to get your children to do their chores, get themselves ready for the day on time, and get to bed on time in the evening.
After years of trial and error, plus extensive research and testing, Children's Miracle Music was born.
I'm passionate to help parents succeed in bringing up confident, healthy and happy children.
This blog is about my journey -- to share the inside story on children's motivation, home organization, family fun and harmony ...and lots more too. I hope you will join the conversation with comments and questions - here on this blog and on my Website.
had made their beds and were now doing their “
Write the dates on the “Goal” section of the “Points Chart”. Let them know that they need 100 points to reach their goal and go on their date. I always put “Dad” and then “Mom” at the top of the chart for everyone to understand that we all need to do our part in home chores. But the ‘real goal’ is to train our children to have the HABIT, SKILL and DESIRE to quickly and happily take care of each home area, as well as themselves. This ‘real goal’ needs to be achieved before they turn 18 and leave their parents’ home, so that they can then achieve this without exterior motivation.
She then starts handing the dry clothes from the dryer to Angel to hang up. (Angel has been practicing doing the laundry every day for three years and can almost completely do our families laundry by herself. Yes she is only 3!) Grace knows how to do these things because I have put my hand on her hand and done these things WITH her so many times that she now knows to do some of the laundry and bed making on her own.
Also - please send in your photos and we will post them on the blog.
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