Use Music To Raise Confident And Responsible Children
Posted by: Christine Mullins in Home Organization, Kids Chores, Kids Housekeeping, Motivational MusicI wanted to share my thoughts in response to Rebecca from Michigan, who asked me this question:
“I have to 10 year old son and 6 year old son. I think my 6 year old will love it, but will it help motivate my 10 year old?”
The other morning I slept in because I was up at night with my little ones. So I didn’t start the Childrens Miracle Music game when I usually do. My little six year old, Faith came into my room and whispered in my ear that she and her brother Tommy (age 
had made their beds and were now doing their “Act of Kindness“. Tommy was downstairs making breakfast for the family and Faith was cleaning the bathroom. They were finished in ten minutes—the amount of time that they would need if the music had been on. Teenagers may roll their eyes at doing your system but I just tell my children (ages 1,3,6,8,13,15 and 19) that it is my job to find a system that supports our family to have me as their TRAINER – and not their slave. This is the system I have chosen.
Oftentimes, I ask them if they prefer me to yell, spank or ground them instead of playing the fun musical game to get their points done. They always choose the game for the system. The Children’s Miracle Music game does not make you the motivator anymore. You know WHEN to expect WHOM to clean WHAT each day without motivating them.
To TRAIN your children, put your hand on their hand and do it with them until they can do it for themselves. Also, one game rule is “Thumbs up rule.” You only use words about what you see when someone does something that is GOOD. This goes for husbands as well! Don’t say a word when you are tempted to say something that someone is NOT doing.
I would highly encourage getting the Children’s Miracle Music game ESPECIALLY for your ten year old because you only have eight years left to TRAIN him how to have these essential life skills. Thanks Rebecca for asking. I always like questions and comments right here on the blog.
Whatever gets attention will get repeated.
You can also TRAIN by letting them have natural consequences. One day the “Dishes” “Act of Kindness” didn’t get done. I didn’t say one word about it. When dinner came around I just washed the table and served dinner without the plates. That point got done the next day. I do think that your children should learn these skills and habits so that they can become responsible, self-governed, skilled adults.
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